It’s bogus to think you can send your kids to school, let the teachers teach them, and you, the parent, won’t have to help with anything–all year.
“We don’t need to do any work at home…” –this mentality has become a crutch in our society.
I challenge you to think about how Every Mom is a Homeschooling Mom.
The educational system has given our children more and more opportunities to become engaged in sports, clubs, social activities–that some parents believe that’s all the enrichment their child needs. Just school + activity.
Whereas before, back in the good ol’ days, kids were expected to help in the kitchen, they had lots and lots of chores, they were outside doing work–fixing, painting, planting, building, cleaning.Back in the good ol’ days, kids were expected to help in the kitchen, they had lots and lots of chores...Click To Tweet
And what they learned through all of that dirty work, was how to do an excellent job, the value of hard work, how to take direction, and how to contribute to their family as an independent, capable person.
They learned (what Maria Montessori so nobly defined) Practical Life Skills. You know, how to fold towels, blankets, wash clothing, make different meals, how to sew and quilt, when to water the lawn and when to put air in the tires.
They learned how to take care of their world, their home, and their lives.
When our oldest was 10 years old (having grown up in Montessori), the teacher told us that she had mastered the ability to prepare and cook an entire meal on her own. Practical. Life. Skills.
Parents have let kids off the hook. And, to their to their detriment, have not taught them so many important practical life skills, they have no idea really what these “practical life skills” are for. What purpose and reward they provide to a young, independent child.
We let them off the hook in a lot of ways. We hire help instead of pulling the family together to work on a project. We put our kids in so many extracurricular activities that they aren’t home long enough to ever witness these life skills in actions. We convince ourselves school + activities is enough to get the job done…
Raising kids isn’t a job. It’s a duty we agreed to when we made them.
So, how and when are we really preparing them for the world? In which ways are we modern mothers taking the time, every single day of our kids’ lives, to make sure they are world-ready? To make sure they are even better off than we were? To make sure they have the tools to handle anything the world throws at them.So, how and when are we really preparing our kids for the world?Click To Tweet
Well, we’re not. We can’t pretend like we’re getting our kids fully prepared for the world!
We aren’t doing our children any favors by letting them get out of doing some these things–no matter what our reason is, it just doesn’t cut it. All parents have a duty to their children.
There’s a connection that happens between parents and children when they’re working alongside one another on a common goal. Fixing a fence, a leaky faucet, a hole in the wall. High-fiving about how good a job they did. Showing the good work they did to their friends and family.
There’s a very powerful confidence and feeling of unity that happens when kids and adults work in conjunction to improve their family, life, and home.
Every mom is a homeschooling mom, every single one of us. Our family is not our “2nd Shift” job. They are our duty.
Every mom should be taking the time to sit down and read with their children, to make sure they know math, to ask them questions about history, to take them to the art museum to learn about different cultures in the world, to talk to them about spirituality and doing good work on the environment.Every mom is a homeschooling mom, every single one of us.Click To Tweet
If it were up to me, school would go year-round until children were 18. Because when you get out into the real world, called Life, you don’t take summers off. There is no such thing as “well it got hot, we’re taking a couple months to hit the pool and take a bunch of time off.”
Parents don’t get time off. They have a duty to teach their family year-round.
A few days here, a vacation there, yeah–it’s good for the soul! And we all need rest from time to time to gather our wits and carry forward with our mission, but if you’re touching on 3-4+ months of free time…
You lose a lot of the skillset that you were in the habit of learning on the job. All that reading, experimenting, networking–the fire burns out if we aren’t there to keep it going.
The same thing happens when we allow our children to stop learning. Every mom is a homeschooling mom!
Some of the things we do with our kids…
Our 3 year old has kept busy throughout the entire summer working on Montessori Projects, tactile improvement, learning letters using an alphabet box (see below), chipping in with small household chores, money sorting to understand numerical values, and the cutest thing of all–working in the garden!
Our middle schooler has helped us remodel our upstairs, organize and run a garage sale + bake sale, has a weekly tutor, and has worked on Khan Academy throughout the summer. It’s a “for free, forever, for everyone” online education system developed by a guy named Sal (who has 3 degrees from MIT + an MBA from Harvard.
The website is incredible. First off–it allows kids to learn at their own pace, year-round. Secondly–it provides parental and/or tutor oversight, which shows us what our student has worked on and which skills they’ve mastered.
We want our girls to feel confident and prepared each and every year school comes back around. We treat the home like a classroom, and we’re so proud of the things we’ve learned, achieved, and improved as a family.We want our girls to feel confident and prepared each and every year school comes back around. Click To Tweet
Reading is the most critical skill kids are failing to truly master.
Access to the internet is immediate and it’s everywhere. On the phone, the tablet, the screen. On the road, the plane, the lazy Sunday. And they are definitely NOT browsing the web for insightful articles and historical information. They like videos. They love YouTube. They adore Minecraft.
2-3 Hours of 2-5 Minute youtube videos will NOT better our children’s lives.
Crafting, music lessons, walks in the park, chores, jobs, and independent WILL.
We keep a box full of all the artwork and crafting supplies our kids need for all sorts of fun projects. Instead of “Mom I’m bored” or binging on YouTube–at any time this summer, they can go to art box and make something as soon as they have the urge. They make efforts and attempts and try hard to create–independently. Without a teacher, a tutor, or any oversight.
Sound better than YouTube yet?
Learning doesn’t stop when school ends.
Practical Life Skills are an integral part of everything we do. How to start the car. How to pull weeds. How to pick up our messes. Just think of how many HOW-TO articles you see out there on the web…
Even our adult lives are obsessed with learning how-to. Focus. Win. Earn. Build. Launch.
We’re making real things. Pulling from our box of technique and skill, we can–at anytime this summer–make a sale, a new lead, a new mastery of something.
We’re beginning to lose some of this hustle-mentality with our children. We’re beginning to lose some of the good ol’ days things that we were raised with–and that have helped us succeed in life.
It’s our turn to double down on our children, to teach them how to interact, learn, and improve the immediate world around us all. To feel confident and secure walking into any-kind of situation. It’s our duty.
You are a year-round homeschooling mom–whether you want to be or not. We are teachers, principals, and parents. We are directors and supervisors. We are the transportation and the consideration. We are the love and the direction. We are Mommy Breadwinners™.
We are Homeschooling Moms.